Wednesday, May 20, 2015
Saturday, May 16, 2015
以前总觉得被人利用也没什么关系, 虽然懂那不是真心相待但也不计较, 反正也没很大的损失。 心想, 总有一天, 你是会看到我的好, 从而真心待我。 错了, 这只会让人习惯了利用你, 和觉得你很好糊弄。 一次一次给机会, 是不舍这段友情, 你还当我真傻。 从一开始没对你真心的人, 永远不会珍惜你的好，因为你至始至终只是一件工具而已。 #小人
可能我是慢热性, 需要长一点时间才能深交, 但至少，那个是真正的我。 我也不想, 也懒得解释, 并不是 I dont care, 而是我不喜欢说人是非而提倡自己无罪。 还真纳闷为什么就是不了解我、不相信我呢? 我不说话, 还真当我是心虚或是默认。 隔阂越来越深，现在想解释也不知怎么开口，也不知从何说起。 毕竟小人物真实颜色已被我拆穿，没办法得拆了我这个桥。 她也太小人之心度君子之腹了。 我没想过要向人抹黑她。 反倒是一些眼尖之人擦觉而叫我提防她。 即使如此，我也没说什么。 (Kaoz 我人真的是太好了) But wrong move la....她先下手为强，去筹谋和煽风点火。 还是有人上当了。 来问我为什么对她这么差。
Monday, May 11, 2015
This episode is SO funny!! And truly an eye-opener for shorties like me! Lol! Seriously, anyone will prefer to be taller-than-average THAN shorter-than-average loh. I never knew tall girls have woes too, I suppose this only applies to girls who are taller than 1.68m. That is a number which I've NEVER even dream about! I only remembered my height stayed stagnant at 1.5m during my secondary school days. While my classmates constantly need to alter their skirt length, mine stayed the same. =(
Do watch the episode above before you read further. Once you've watched, then you'll understand what is call 壁咚！Lol. Haha Because I'm going to share my woes, ok lah, and perks of being a shortie. Muahahaha
So the first point being mentioned in the show is...
1) Shorties are more agile and better in most sports?
I think....it's kinda true leh. When I was more active in sports during my primary school days, my sports is actually not bad, with a consecutive record of achieving gold. For shorties, movements are quick so usually they run faster in shuttle runs. They're lighter, so they jumped further in standing broad jumps. For the record, I can jump 190cm far when I'm only 150cm. So my teacher asked me to join the high jump competition(zzz) and I came out 3rd. The thing which I'm worse at is indeed 2.4m run, my stamina sucks and I always need to struggle for points. However those were the days, I hardly exercise now. The only sport which I can manage abit is badminton. I've long ago ditched swimming because no matter how I swim, it's still slower than I walk in the water. I blame it on my short limbs. Hahaha! Anyway, I'm aquaphobic lah and sports are generally not that important in our lives. But being tall with long limbs really helps with walking. Tall people gets tired less easily when walking long distances. While the short us, being more agile, usually walks faster and weaves through crowd more easily. Whenever I'm walking with my friends, my friends always ask me "Why you walk so fast?" I was like, "Am I? But this is already my casual speed, I walked even faster when I'm alone."
2) Shorties have more leg space in cinemas and planes?
HAHAHA! Ya lah true lah. Often than not, I see my 1.8m tall hubby with no room for his legs on the plane; he can hardly move. It's not so bad in cinemas though. Shorties are very prone to being BLOCKED in the cinemas especially when we have a tall person sitting right infront of us. Then there will always be a PORTION of the scene being blocked. Sigh.... so sometimes dearie will switch seats with me. Guess the person behind me will be ecstatic, FULL UNBLOCKED VIEW. Lol. Apart from the cinemas, we're always being blocked lah whenever there's a crowd, cannot see this, cannot see that. And we have to be constantly WARY of flying elbows that may hit our FACES or BREASTS. Seriously, dont know which is worse. (=.=)'''' Tall people usually have bigger actions with their longer hands and legs. I have to dodge my hubby all the time when he's always so clumsy and his hits are lethal because he dont have much meat around his elbow. OUCH! Other than that, usually we have difficulty reaching stuffs which are on high grounds. For example, supermarket or clothing stores la, I usually cant reach the higher racks and need to ask people for help. Zzz. Very troublesome.
And sometimes, some very noti guy friends will always refer us, "那个矮的 hor", or that "小不点" or that "小辣椒". (=.=)''''''''''' Or else will suan me, "Can you see that or not??" Humph!
3) Shorties have the privilege of being a 小女人 acting-cute and 撒娇?
Frankly speaking, I'm not that kinda girl who sai1 nai1(撒娇), and act cute(UNLESS I'm super drunk lah okay, that's a different story) and I'm not a 小女人 at all. BUT I think it's true that people have the impression that small sized girls are fragile, needs more care and concern. So they tend to be more protective of them. Most of my closer friends tend to be around the same height as me, within a 10cm range. I think it's simply because we click better and can connect better due to the same height? Lol And I can tell you, most small-sized girls pack a punch. They're strong-willed, independent and most of the times, less vulnerable where emotions are concerned. Of course there are exceptions...hmm...but few. Anyway, I still feel 撒娇 has more to do with looks and tone of voice, not soooo much on height. =) And ultimately, it falls back on the personality of the girl, whether or not she's the type who will act cute or 撒娇. =)
4) Shorties have more 桃花, a,k.a, better luck with more guys because for tall girls, once a guy is shorter than a girl, the chemistry diminished ?
Ok...maybe if we put aside all the other criteria like looks etc and looking just at the height factor alone, yes, maybe it's true. Because short girls naturally have more choices, just like how a younger girl can accept a bigger age range of guys while some guys have issues with ladies who are older than them. However I think there's a small percentage of guys who wants their partners to be tall as well. Personally I know a prick like so. Hahaha! Ok la just kidding!
5) Tall girls will turn masculine and macho once they gained weight while shorties will not?
This is really not true lor. It takes ALOT of weight for tall girls to turn masculine and macho, maybe like a 10kg. 2kg to 4kg will HARDLY be visible on them. BUT once a shortie gained 3kg to 5kg, THE WHOLE WORLD KNOWS. Because immediately it will be obvious on their face and body, they will turn "round". Recently I just lost a 2-3kg and everybody asked me how much weight I lost because my face slimmed down as well. It was so obvious to them. And they also commented, "Oh yes, last time I saw you, you were so round!" Actually it's only a 3kg difference, but it was very obvious on my 1.5m tall body.
6) Tall girls cant have these, while shorties can? Lol
This is SO FUNNY! Lol True...these acts are very endearing and sweet. =) And they're common to shorties especially the 摸头, not only guys, sometimes when my girlfriends are consoling me, they also will touch my head, it's very comforting.
Hmm.....I mean I hardly have the chance to see a guy eye to eye while standing up. Usually my eye level is at their chest level or neck? So I do always have to "look up" to them...I've never thought much about that until I watched this episode. Laughed like hell when 阿本 壁咚 殷琪.
And I did a little experiment with hubby, one where we talked eye-to-eye while another when I talked looking UP to him. The atmosphere was indeed different! He said it's...more endearing and cuter. Hahaha. Then I froze in my tracks, and I recalled....I think that probably explained some of the weird actions that previously my guy frens had. =X
I think....when a girl looks up to a guy.....it creates a puppy-eye effect no matter what you were saying. You can be scolding him and he'll still finds you cute. (=.=)'''' At that (short) height, you have NO authority or 气势 whatsoever. I ever screamed like a 38 at a close male friend towering at 1.82m tall and the next thing I knew, he took 2 big steps and was kissing me. (=.=)'''''''' So it's just hard for a shortie girl to escape that kinda...atmosphere. Sigh.............. On the other hand, it's difficult for a tall girl if she WANTS this kind of atmosphere unless well, the guy in question is 1.90+m tall maybe.
7) Tall girls have difficulty buying clothes while shorties can buy easily online
That's...somewhat true I guess, but ONLY for online clothes. Though of course you still have to be reasonably slim. I cant fit some online clothes either. But most of them are okie. However, I feel for outside stores, it's easier for tall girls to buy clothes. As for the tall girls saying dresses for us shorties will generally turn out to be just tops for them, that is so true. But that also means some tops may in turn be too long for us shorties! Sometimes these tops/dresses stopped at an awkward length which is neither a top nor a dress(I blame the manufacturer), I'll wear it anyway with a pair of shorts. THEN it will always looks as if I'm not wearing anything underneath because the long top sort of covered my shorts. Zzzz. And oh, long dresses and gowns are always a DREAM to us. Despite alterations are possible with long gowns, we know we'll always look like a watermelon in them, eventually, I dont even wear them even though when occasions call for it.
While Yi Xuan said in the show tall girls can never make themselves look more petite(because they cant possibly chop off their legs) while short girls can wear high heels, hats etc to make themselves look taller. But hey, dont you feel tall girls just look sleek and chic effortlessly while shorties will always look...well....humble...and kiddish....no matter how much they tried? :`( Okie, one consolation is, no matter how you look, you'll always give an impression that you're younger because of your height.
Speaking of which, lately I tried the how-old,net.
Shorties' dressing style is BORING. They can only wear short dresses or shorts to make themselves look taller. By short, I mean above knee. And we MUST always wear high heels/wedges etc. Everytime I'm in my flats, I feel so small with all confidence gone. That's why I hate the pools and beaches because you cant wear high heels and wedges there! With a tall spouse, there's extra pressure because you always have to match him. Not only that, you'll look very off when you take pictures with your guy friends.
Usually we have to take pictures while sitting down, or else they have to hunch heavily to accommodate me.
Actually more importantly, you gotta know your body shape and proportions so as to dress to your advantage. As you probably know, being slim will always make you look taller. So shorties must always try to be slim else once you get rounder, you'll definitely look even shorter. And because I have a super short torso, most of the time, I need to hide my waistline with longer tops or dresses because if not, I'll look even more improportional with heels. High-waist shorts/skirts are absolutely a no-no. If you have a longer torso than legs, then wear high waist to make your waistline look higher. Try not to wear tops and bottoms which visually cuts your body into half. On the contrary, a bikini will make you look taller instead of a 1 piece.
Oh well, just to mention to my fellow shorties friends, being short is not the end of the world, although it's kinda true there's NOTHING you can do much about it(personally I think a knee operation is totally ridiculous). 志气比天高 OK!! More importantly is your will and your mind!
Have a dream. And do whatever it takes to achieve it. Height has nothing to do about it. Erm, unless you wish to be a model or air-stewardess. =X Alright, but all other careers should be okie!!! Be positive!!! =D
Sunday, May 10, 2015
However, I'm also not one who is so blinded by loyalty that I will suggest things which are not in line with my core values. For example, in short, I will say "Dont be with him when you dont love him" or "Dont marry him if you just want to get married". So, sorry if I cant agree with you on certain things, but it's cool, I mean, it's up to you. We all have different beliefs...values etc. At the end of the day, well, it's your life and if there is Karma.....you're the one facing it, not me.
Therefore, you can be sure in this world, there's bound to be friends who disagree with me. It's really okay, until they take it personally. Which is really, dumb. Because I do care for them, not only for the moment, not only for the situation, but for their whole life ahead. Of course I wish things go well for them, for now and for the future. Of course, I cant be right all the time, sometimes I dont wish that I'm right either. Life is all about gamble. But some bets, you cant know the result immediately. Some come after years.
Recently, crap...wondering is it the season or anything...few friends have relationship problems all at the same time. Some are married, some are attached, some are single. All different problems, all different situations. I chatted on phone with them, whatsapp endless convo, go out for drinks with them, just to get it off their chest. Generally speaking, I dont advise until I'm being asked to. Sigh....I saw so much tears. It really pains me. It's so so so heavy on my heart but I'm used to shoulder all kinds of burdens ever since I was young so still can tahan abit.
Sometimes, I repeated myself so much to an extent, I'm at a loss of words. Maybe they do understand what I'm trying to say, but love blinds the eyes....so sometimes it stops them from doing what they should do, not that it means they didnt try.... But I'll reach a certain stage where I wont comment anymore, because I've said my piece.
Anyway, I remembered this nice flick which I've enjoyed, I think most of you have watched before.
He's not that into you.
Ahhh I specially love that quote:
If a guy treats you as though he doesnt give a
shit, he GENUINELY doesnt give a shit~
LOL! But really, sometimes, really cant stand my girls giving so much excuses for the guys they fancy. It's so exasperating. But again, maybe I behaved this way when I'm in love. Lol.
To quote my friend, "I like to ask you is because you're very logical and blunt." Funny. That's because this friend of mine is also a very logical person(Capricorn) until she is in love(I think all of us are like that lah). You know some friends HATE me for being overly logical and too blunt. Then it's so contradicting; they can tell me "Please be honest with me...do you think I should...bla bla" THEN, they blamed me for being too honest and blunt. *Faints*
But well...I'm tryingggg to be less blunt nowadays.
Ok shall stop here, sleepy.
Friday, May 8, 2015
Jack Ma: Selling to Stranger, Family and Friends
Not all friends are like that, some maybe. For my supportive friends and wonderful coldcall clients, smuacks smuacks smuacks!! 爱你一万年！！！！
Sad but kinda true for someeeee "friends". Some of them forget the friendship that you all have.. And once they became your clients, suddenly, some of them gives you an wary attitude, some even treats you like their lower counterparts....expect you to 随传随到 or meet them at any venue they dictate. Even my directors and CEO clients dont give me such attitude, we respect each other and they dont act all superior and demanding. So it's very sad one, seeing friendship change like that.
Switch insurer for shield plans is fine also, just drop me a message, it's a basic respect. If you're just a stranger client, I'm fine with no notice. But I treat you as a good friend and you dont even inform me?? It's also okay if you dont intend to take up whatsoever OR you've already taken up from another company. IT'S OKAY, just tell me. Dont give me bullshit like..."Oh I need to consider....I'm realllllyyy busyyyy this month...how about next month?" time after time!! THEN, after few months of bullshit then "Oh paiseh I already bought from XXX liao". That seriously gets my blood boiling.
If I can reverse time, I dont even want to do their sales, although 90% of the time is they come ask me one, because I generally dont do friends' market. What's that small amount of money compared to the friendship? But sometimes, I think I overvalue the friendship maybe.
Stranger clients appreciate your service so much while friends always feel what you did is never enough. But actually, my service is always the SAME. WHY? Because stranger clients buy from me when they dont even know me, and usually their policies are of BIG amounts. I appreciate SO MUCH. So sometimes I meet them, I will buy pastries or cakes along as a small token. On the other hand, most of my friend's policies are of smaller amounts, but because they're my friends and they support me, my service is no less. In fact, for the closer ones, we will get together on their birthdays, treat them dinners or drinks etc. Because we are friends, more than just clientele.
That's why I super appreciate friends who are supportive(smuacks smuacks smuacks) and my beloved "stranger" clients. They're the BEST!!
Monday, April 27, 2015
Continued from here.....
I'm just perplexed.
Why the deep hatred? The malice.
Obviously one couldnt have done so much to a person whom she merely dislike.
I'm really really perplexed and clueless.
There's no one that I hate in this world. Even if I ever did, it never lasts long. Dislike, yes. Neither am I one who wishes something bad befalls someone I dislike. If I dont even wish for it, I couldnt care less to physically go initiate and DO something negative to them.
But obviously someone hates me enough to go through all these work..for years. Scary isnt it.
I really wonder, am I really that detestable, or is there nothing else more important in their life...so much so they're wasting so much energy and hardwork to bring me down.
You dont do so much to bring someone down when you merely dislike them. You do so because you felt threatened by them.
I've already give way in many many aspects. Still, they are not satisfied.
I think if I die then they will really be happy.
Initially I felt a little sad....but suddenly realized...I think they are more pitiful...
There are really things I can do to retaliate and affect them in a negative way.
But I really dont. Because I dont feel happy when they feel sad.
I like peace. I dont like conflicts. I dont like to pierce people's bubble. Neither do I want your balloon.
You think I like to compete with you, actually I really couldnt care less.
Maybe deep down you know, you know I'm not vying for anything with you. Because I'm happily married with a doting hubby, I have a good career, I have many great friends who arent only around when there are alcohol, my life is complete.
But you just hate it that I'm around.
After few years, from different sources and my recollection of some "signs and symptoms", I finally realized where can a woman's deepest hatred come from.
I didnt try to seduce their objects of interest.
That's probably why.
Because I didnt.
I didnt try.
I'm sorry, I should have tried. Maybe you will hate me lesser because doing so makes me such a bitch and you have more legitimate reason to hate a bitch. But you know I'm just not. Who's the one bitching here, you know very well. Everytime, I'm more appalled by the level of "high-handed-ness". I thought I'm watching HK drama. To think it will happen on me, something which I've never imagined.
I'm quite surprised I wasnt angry. I'm just kinda exasperated and 无奈。I wonder why I wasnt angry. Then I realized because I didnt care that much...maybe not anymore. Do all you want. Be happy in the "empire" you've created by spinning lies and tearing my reputation to shreds. For the ironic part, she didnt realized the more she bitched me to be a slut, the more interest some guys may show~ She should learn from my another girlfriend instead, announced to everyone I'm married, even to people I just met at the 1st setting, people whom I dont even remember their names. Thank you for the introduction. Though abit funny to be introduced this way, I dont mind. Because I'm seriously not in the game as you ladies, for I'm not interested.
Sunday, March 29, 2015
Dear Mr Lee, we will always remember you, for there will be not be such a prosperous and "somewhat" safe city(last time during your reign much safer though....) if not for your great foresight and perseverance. If you believe in reincarnation like I do, I hope you will be born a Singaporean in your next lifetime and be back with us....to guide us again.
Thank you so much.
(Thanks to the officers and volunteers who helped out)
It sometimes seem....you never realize that someone holds a place in your heart until he had left you.
This year 2015 seems a significant year despite it's only March. Mr Lee left us, it's very sad that he cant be around to celebrate Singapore 50th year of independence on 9th Aug. Coincidentally, it's also my birthday. And...I'm feeling blue already.
Today also marked my 10th year into the insurance industry. I have Mr Lee to thank for this great job where you will be rewarded as long as you work hard and serve with heart and pride. It's his credit for this prosperous country and education for the people so that they recognize the need to protect lives and assets by transferring risk. How else will a bunch of poorly educated fishermen buy insurance in a 3rd world fishing village?
Hereby, expressing my heartfelt thanks for my wonderful hubby who had always been and always will be my sunshine, my parents who supported me through my education, my mentor who brought me into this business, my master who taught me skills and totally changed my life, all my very sweet clients and friends who supported me, the various managers who helped me in every way imaginable despite having no obligation and also my fellow colleagues who showed support and encouragement in every way. Special thanks to shana, sonia, angie lee, eileen, remus, shannon, carmen, royston, kelvin boo, desmond, eddiee, gerrard, michelle seow, vonne, haze, mel, damon, matthew, kelvin sim, the very sweet secretary Cat and not to forget my company who has been staying strong all these many years. #没你没我 #没你们也没我
Thank you all so much..... Im so blessed to have you all in my life. =)