Showing posts with label dearie. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dearie. Show all posts

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Asian Kitchen at Bugis Plus




The Asian Kitchen at Bugis Plus (the old illuma)

This was really a very satisfying meal. The sauteed beans with salted egg yolk was so fragrant with the kind of wok-smell and it's texture was just right with that mere degree of crunch that doesnt bother you as raw. The braised meat rice/noodles were so yummy! It's absolutely scrumptious. Full of flavors, the meat were lean and tender. They're very inexpensive too, although the portions were reallllyyy small. Dearie actually ordered 1 more portion to get full. And I needed dessert to complete my meal. Hee. The mango sago was very very nice too, it's unlike the normal ones you have. Apart from sweet mango cubes, it's made of mango sherbet that wasnt too sweet. Generous sago with that dash of coconut milk makes it smell wonderful. 

One thing you have to note is, I seemed to notice different Asian Kitchen outlets have different menus. So not all outlets serve the same dishes.


After our dinner, I went to buy a plushie for a dear friend who was hospitalized. She had to do a surgery too, poor thing. So I bought her this to cheer her up!! So cute righttttt~~~~ Still got a diaper one with a winter hood too!! Hope she get well soon!




Actually all along I dont really like plushies, I also dont know why. Can you imagine I dont own a single plushie? Lol. Okie I think I did have a Stitch before, which a guy friend bought for me. He probably thought all girls like it....but imagine my "zzz" face when I received the surprise gift. Haha. But it's a super cute Stitch because it talks and responds differently when you say different things to him! 

I bought Rilakkuma for my friend because I know she likes it. =D And dont know why.....suddenly....I feel Rilakkuma is really kinda cute too!! Casually mentioned it to dearie....and one day he came home and surprised me with Plushie too!!! 




This is much bigger than the one I bought for my friend, and it's body, hands and legs are filled with sand so they're bendable. So cute! It's super duper soft and comfy to hug! Just looking at it makes me happy. Haha. Ahhhh.........maybe it has to do with age, I also dont know why the suddenly change in me. =P


Thanks my dear!! Smuacks!!!!



Thursday, December 5, 2013

Dearie's birthday at Park Regis Hotel - Full Review of Park Regis for 3 different staycations


It's hard to plan a birthday surprise especially when you see your hubby everyday....including the time when you work. >.<  I had to fish my credit card sneakily to book the room for his birthday eve and despite so, he kinda saw how I key in my credit card numbers in the midst of booking something and was as happy as a bird. Geez....I tried to act embarrassed and said, "Huh...the credit card is for my online shopping.....I never plan anything leh....sorry dear...lately really busy no time."

His face fell. "Orh............nevermind lah....we just go for a dinner lor...."

"Ok."

My acting not bad leh. Lol.

So after our work and supper, which was already very late, I had to wait for him to sleep before I can start packing. OH MY GOD, he only went to sleep at around 3+am....zzZzzz......and by the time I finished packing(simply too many stuff on my mind too), it was around 4+am. I was so tired, and I also thought it's kinda dangerous for me to put the stuff into his car boot at that hour...so I was like....arggghhhh......forget it la...he sees the holiday bag then sees it lahhhhh~

We're supposed to check in at 3pm and actually I intended for us to catch a high-tea at L'espresso, Goodwoodpark from 12pm - 3pm prior to checking in. BUT, I was simply too tired and overslept. And had to hurry both of us to bathe and get changed. He saw the packed bags anyway and was happy as a bird.

"Dear, you planned something for me righttttttt?"

"Ya la ya la...since you saw liao.... Dear!! *act excited and enthu* I've planned a surprise PICNIC at SENTOSA, we can go stroll along the beach lomantic lomantic and then head for a swim!! Dear, you love swimming isnt it?? I already pack your swimming briefs liao!" *SmileZ*

His face fell again.


SO FUNNY LAH!!! Wahahahahaha!!!

The thing is, he hates Sentosa and picnics and stuff(he knows I'm into it) BUT he does really likes swimming! So for a MOMENT, he indeed believed me(I think). LOL. However, logic got the better of him and he said, "Dear, it's going to rain. Need to change plan liao."

WAHAHAHAHA.

I think after my hilarious laugh, he also realized I couldnt have plan that for him since I know he's so NOT into picnics and such. It's a norm for us to have staycations, but he didnt know which hotel I book. Since he had to drive, he asked for the address, and I said 23 merchant road, thinking he wouldnt know where and was opening my "MAPS" app to direct him. Stupid lor me...how could he not know....and he said, "Hee.....Park Regis huh?" I was like........"....ya la......."

ANYWAY, the boy was happy. FYI, it's super difficult to get him to smile properly for a picture. This is the most precious.







 The Room

The room is definitely not considered big but it's very cosy to me, to us. I like the concept of the open bathroom alot because sometimes I feel uneasy if the toilet is kinda far away and a big one on it's own. *Spooky* Oh if you love bathtubs then sorry this doesnt come with one. It comes with rain shower, which is also very shiok! =) 



Oh....I have to say the TV channels are really PATHETIC. Thank god I bought my Lenovo along and using connection from my HP, we watched shows on my lappy while munching our tidbits. I love the bedsheets!!! So smooth and soft!!!! The pillows are very soft too, I might consider requesting for a firmer one for sleeping next time. 



The rooms are brilliantly designed so much so that ample space are saved; there are hidden drawers, hidden fridge, it's most amusing.  Wine glasses, wine opener, tea and saucers, hair-dryer, ironing board, safe etc. I love the floral carpets too. Although there isnt a proper dressing table, the surrounding mirrors are great for makeups; you can sit on the bed to do your makeup by turning to the left for the mirror. By the way...I love this comfy and thin long t-shirt with sweet pink florals and Eiffel towers!! Only S$10 from bugis village. *love*




The toiletries are of good quality and leaves both your hair and skin feeling great. However, I dont like the scent very much. If you're particular with scents then it's better to bring your own. 

It was lovely and damn shiok! Quite cold though and it was a pity we cant swim, partly because it was simply too cold and we kinda overslept also. HAHA! 

The main reason why I chose Park Regis was that dearie mentioned he wished to have the grilled cod from The Pump Room, Clarke Quay for his dinner on his birthday eve. Park Regis is walking distance to CQ and is a relatively new and charming hotel. FYI, for Park Regis, check-in time is 3pm while check out is 12pm. This is our 3rd staycation at Park Regis.

During our 1st stay, as the hotel was super new then, they had some hiccups and it wasnt until 5.30pm that we're allowed to check in; they did compensate with a slighter later check-out at 2pm(I think) plus an AWESOME complimentary dinner and drinks at Suite 23, their lobby restaurant, which includes soup, salad, 2 mains and dessert! (We paid for my lychee martini). Very yummy steak, I remembered! So overall, still a very pleasing experience!

The 2nd stay went smoothly without hiccups. Nothing out of the norm.

This time round, our 3rd stay, it was all great; the service was good too; reminded me of Fullerton's, where the receptionist actually walked us to the lift and pressed the buttons for the level we stayed. Of coz in comparison, the distance is much shorter, lol, but it's the sincerity and effort that counts. =) At checkout, another receptionist asked us how was our stay with affection. I had to tell her frankly it was all great until there was a neighbor guest who chatted animatedly with a laundry auntie early in the morning at 8am.

They spoke for more than 5minutes and it was full blown in our rooms. Being a light sleeper, I was already being awaken. Bearing no more, I opened my door and said to them, "Can you lower your volume please?" I dont remember whether I got a reply because I went back to bed immediately. They continued to chat audibly for around 1 or 2minutes more before....to my horror....the laundry auntie came to press our doorbell asking for laundry. Dearie shouted "No" to her and she left.

As hotels were generally quiet in the rooms premises......we didnt have any problems with noise.  It wasnt until this episode that we realized actually their rooms are not very sound-proof. The receptionist, surprisingly, heard me out throughout and gave me a sympathetic and sorry apology. WOW, you know usually people just ask for feedback for the sake of asking, but I felt she was really listening. I just felt better already. Sometimes customers just simply wished to be heard. Oh well, it was just 1 unlucky morning. 



Yup, so the grilled cod at Pump Room.......as always......his favorite. The prawns are starters, nice and fresh though nothing to scream about. He likes the dessert while I'm not one with a sweet tooth. 





After that we strolled around CQ and went Liang Court for some shopping of snacks to munch at night. We had Japanese crepes and it was niceeeee! Bought some Lychee Black Tea, Tea Voyage, from a pushcart. 



Very fragrant though more expensive than usual. A tin at S$28 with 20 teabags. But yeah, 1 teabag can make few cups of tea. 


Ahhh.....it has been such a long time since the "pator" feeling is back because we're always so busy....despite our effort to grab a nice dinner and movie now and then. Maybe because eventually you'll head home and there's always tons of housework and work to do.......... =(
It's just not the same when you're on a staycation. =D It simply feels different and wonderfullllllll. =)  I miss going overseas......will definitely try to arrange one soon....else I'm going berserk soon...


Bought tiramisu from FourLeaves, Liang Court, to act as his birthday cake. Haha. I had 1 too. 



Happy birthday my dear...........smuacks!!! 
Sincerely wishing all the best and only the best for you........and hope that we'll always be happy together........ =)




Friday, September 13, 2013

Ya, like why? 也许,我们真的不适合。



Do you love your GF enough to let her do this?
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(P/S After dearie saw my entry, he highlighted me on 1 error: "It should be, I love you far too much to let you do this for me. You know, it's like, I love you too much to hurt your feelings instead of I love you too much to NOT hurt your feelings. No need that word "NOT"." I was like, "Eh ya hor". But thankfully he said, "But I get your meaning lah, that's why I said that's what I thought too." Lol. Kekeke!)


From the way he answered and the way I know him, he meant it truly. =)
He's just far too blunt to say things which he dont mean it. You know, saggi leh~
I simply love our style of communication; we're just so frank, so open with each other. No hard feelings bottled up, anything we just put it on the table(and serve). Lol. =P
Everyday, I feel so blessed to have him in my life. =)
Have you told your loved ones that you love them today? =)



Recently a friend just told me the girl she likes just broke up with her boyfriend. 
And I was saying, 

"Ai seh! Your chance come liao. Faster go woo!!" 

My friend: "Nahzz....I find it hard to communicate with her. Little things can get so angry and throw tantrum. Joking only mah. Why so sensitive? If as friends, communication already so difficult, how to become couple?"

Me: "But you like her alot right??"

My friend: "Like is one thing....everytime quarrel very sian one...I really buay tahan liao...you cant expect after we got together liao, then I everytime talk very carefully....or dont talk at all.....like this together for what? "

Me: "Ya true............."

My friend: "Everytime I got to stoop so low to apologise when I dont even feel I'm in the wrong....again and again, again and again. I'm really, really tired.........."


I remembered a friend told me this before, when I unknowingly made a friend angry over some insensitive remark;

"From now on, you can only talk less or dont talk at all, lest you unknowingly say wrong things and made her angry again....but like this, you also very miserable because always got to suppress your feelings...cannot express freely...like this also difficult la..."

Ya lo.......then might as well I cut down on meeting her......and even if I meet her whether in groups etc, I cant talk to her or mention anything in regards to her....And I thought....."Huh...if like this, might as well I dont meet, or dont join the gathering at all. [=.=]'''' And...if this continues....as much as I want to keep her as a friend, I think it's also difficult.....Sigh......

I can also say....我们不适合(做朋友)。Machaim BGR like that...haha...
But when you think about it, it's very similar and it's true.
I've never think that when a guy and girl cannot be together as a couple, it means neither party is at fault or not good enough etc. Sometimes it's just that they're not suited...personality/background etc etc. Same thing with friends. My friends either love me or hate me, I realized! Too bad she "hates" me...for now.... As much as I love her, and I also think she wanna (try to) accept me(else she wouldnt endure me for so long...she said the "grievances" were accumulative. =( ......

But I guess................SIGH.............it's really tough......

Actually I also believe there are some 小人(mean people) around who always like to 煽风点火(sow discord).......Although I'm just so disappointed at the turnout....I can only tell myself that it's probably my downfall that I fail to realize, to sense her unhappiness with me for all my insensitive remarks and nonsense all this while. Stupid.....

Because both of us has lost a friend who truly care for one another; (I care for her and I believe she also care for me......), now I truly wish she has friends who truly care for her like I do. Because I know I wont be around to keep a lookout for her anymore...if she got drunk or tipsy or care for her anymore.

Frankly speaking, 小人 are all around, sometimes it's difficult to differentiate. I think many people have eyes to see I truly care for her, but if that 小人 can 加盐加醋 in a very natural way to convince her further I'm deliberately "aiming" her, to encourage her to lose me as a friend, frankly speaking...that friend also cant be very kind...

It's like....if you see your friend quarrel with her spouse over some insensitive remarks or in short, a very small issue but YOU KNOW that actually they love each other and care for each other, wouldnt you help by saying, 

"Aiya....maybe he dont mean it one. I'm sure he dont mean it in the negative way....why should he? You 2 had been through so much together...10+ years together...dont because of this small thing then ruin the relationship. You forgot how he was there for you when you need him?"

OR, would you say,
"Oh manz, he's damn insensitive and rude and offensive lor. I feel he's always targeting you and purposely want to make you paiseh one. Dont forgive him. Aiya, this kinda husband, dont want also nevermind. Find another one. Bla bla bla"

Of course you will say things like the former(1st one) right and not the ones in red right??!!! 正所谓,劝合不劝离。Moreover, it's reallllllyyyy not a big issue. Of course unless stuff like...IF I seduce my friend's hubby la, or sow discord between her and friends la, or bad mouth her reputation behind her la or used her whenever I need her but ignore her when I dont need her, THEN OF COURSE I deserve everything. BUT I DID NOT!

A friend who encourages you to do a wrong thing even though it sounds soothing to your ears AT THAT MOMENT(yes you got no fault at all, it's all your hubby's fault, he's in the wrong, go get a divorce) MAY NOT have your best interests at heart. 

Sometimes, a friend who says the un-soothing words may just be the one who stops you from doing the wrong thing or decision;

"You sure your hubby meant it in the negative way? Or is it because you're too sensitive? Maybe he's just joking and didnt know you'll get offended. Anyway, aiya...it's also not a very big thing mah.....I'm sure he treasure the relationship and not purposely make you angry one."

I really felt soOoooOoo.............[?????????] sometimes.

Her exact words to me in message, "I think you always like to target me, also got people also think this way. Why you like to shoot me, you not happy with me or what. Why you always like to drag me in and shoot me?"

YA!! I was also thinking, YA WHYYYYYY??? WHY I WANT TO SHOOT YOU??? *Faints*

Kill people also need to have motive right?? What motive I have??

I introduced her to this group of friends, from this group of friends, she also know more friends. Everytime we got gathering, I ask her along. Through time, she know my friends better, they also add her to group chats and ask her along too. And I'm totally okay with it. NEVER once, that I join but didnt ask her. I ask her to join EVERY SINGLE TIME. But after that we realized she cant come out on weekdays so we stopped asking her on weekdays; but weekends we continue to jio her. Even when I'm meeting 1 or 2 guy or girl friends(friends she know) instead of 1 big group, I also jio her. I'm that close with her, I simply love to bring her along with me whoever I meet(so long so she's comfortable). I introduce her to my circle of friends. She ask me for the numbers of my girlfriends or guyfriends, I also give her. She asks them out without asking me along, I'm also fine. Sometimes we do meet up alone too. We know each other for more than 10years, she meant so much to me.

Now she say I like to shoot her, and target her? I was like why???

Do we like the same guy and thus fighting for attention? Hell no. We're both happily married and whole world knows it thanks to FB. Are we in the same trade and we fight for some promotion etc? No, we're not in the same trade and both very loved by our generous hubby so we dont have money issue. Is she closer to this group of friends than me? Some yes some no. Friends whom I know for a much longer time than her naturally will still be closer with me, that's just the usual simple logic. But let's just say, we got our own closer friends, like A friend/B friend/C friend are closer to her while all the others are closer to me. I dont see any issue here unless she feel it is(which I also dont think she feel so)

You may wonder; Is she prettier than me?

OF COURSE a 100% YES!!!

But the thing is, eh please lor, TONS of people are prettier than me. 

Gra is prettier than me.
Suan is prettier than me.
Huey is prettier than me.
Lin is prettier than me.
Jes is prettier than me.
Shand is prettier than me.
Ser is prettier than me.
Lina is prettier than me.
Angi is prettier than me.
Von is prettier than me.
Phy is prettier than me.
Chris is prettier than me
Jov is prettier than me.
Ama is prettier than me.
PS is prettier than me.
Cel is prettier than me.
Kat is prettier than me.
Rain is prettier than me.

(For awhile, I almost want to put their pics down here, but I thought not very nice. Lol...machiam haolian I got pretty friends like that. =P)

Many many more, sorry due to time constraint, cannot put all the names down. PLEASE dont misunderstand I feel I'm prettier than you just because I didnt put your name!!! I dont mean that!!! Now I'm so f*cking paranoid that everything I blog or say or message must explain veryyyyyy clearly or put a disclaimer. *tired*

SOOOOOOO many girlfriends prettier than me!


So every pretty girl I go and target and shoot? 
Then I very busy lor. 
Then I dont have girlfriends liao lor. 

But tell you, all these PRETTY girlfriends are my GOOD and BEST friends! If you're in my FB then you'll know most of my girlfriends are so pretty and I'm equally close to them, thanks so much that they dont mind a simple plain Jane like me. *feeling blessed again*

Really...........Why would I want to target you and shoot you???

You're one of my longest friend and one of the very best whom I hold dear. I remember very clearly who stood by me when I'm at my lowest and you're one of them. Why would I purposely hurt someone who care for me? I'm not dumb! Good friends are just so hard to come by. Most of them only come to you after they broke up or when they need you but simply MIA when they're happy with their lives again. I'm also used to it. It's hard to get a real friend these days and I always treasure them very much. There's almost no reason on earth that I will ever give you up as a friend, unless you choose to give me up first or unless I've tried anything to keep the friendship but it just doesnt work.


I suppose she's tired....

But actually I am too...


Have a great week guys............

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Close-minded people are usually negative


If you are dealing with closed minded people, it may help you to understand - They do not hear. They will not listen. You cannot change them. They will not follow your logic. They believe what they want to believe.
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Saw this on my friend's FB and I agree with both hands! 

They do not hear. 
They will not listen. 
They will not change. 
They will not follow your logic. 
They believe what they want to believe.

And I may add; Close-minded people are (usually)always NEGATIVE

They take alot of things personally
They take in everything from a NEGATIVE point of view, even though you dont mean anything negative.
They will NEVER think they're at fault ; the fault always lies on others
They never reflect on themselves
They believe if you do not agree with them, then you're against them



If you have such friends, then it's best to stay away from them if your mindset is not strong or your personality get swayed easily.
Because the more you mix with them, the more close-minded and negative you will become.
Eventually, you'll become just like them without noticing it.

I've nothing against them. Nothing's wrong with being close-minded or slightly more pessimistic because everyone's different and everyone's unique. For example, some people are less generous(you may call it stingy) while some people are more generous. Some people might be more reserved while some are friendly. I merely feel different environments make us the way we are(since young). And it's your mindset and the people you meet in later stages of your life which/who may change you. So I have nothing against (almost) any different types of personalities. I often try to see the goodness in different individuals. For example, I have few boastful friends(which some people buay tahan them, lol) but actually, they're pretty generous. =) Another example, I also have very blunt friends who says anything which comes to mind but I'm so grateful they're not hypocritical like some friends I have. They're so truthful. =)


So you see, nobody's perfect. Neither me.

HOWEVER, I simply feel it's very tiring to keep conversations with such close-minded and negative friends, without coming across as.....insensitive and blunt...offensive and god knows how many more negative traits they think of me, just because simply, anything you say, they will think in the negative direction. They feel I've have something against them, personally, OR I'm deliberately "shooting" them. How weird. Why would I?? 

Sometimes I repeat the same things I said, which somehow made a friend unhappy, TO dearie, "So if I say this to you, will you be angry?". I repeated in the same tone and even gave "background info" of the friend(so that dearie will understand the context which I said previously). Sometimes it might be a phone message.

Dearie said, "Huh, what's there to angry about? You mean, you said/text this and your friend got angry?"

Me: "Ya lo"

Of course.......I know I know....different people is different.......but really...I didnt expect it.

Well, I am frank, yeah, but I'll NEVER say anything IF I know VERY WELL that will make you unhappy or upset. Why would I purposely make you unhappy if you are my friend? It's never my motto to.....like.....put you down or get revenge that sorta thing. I'm a person who likes peace.

Sometimes I told dearie about some scenarios regarding a friend, 

Dearie: Oh....you have the right to XXXX what........if she do all this to purposely dont let you XXXX(without you knowing) then you just purposely go XXXX la. Piss her off. Hahahaha!!

Me: Duhz...............why would I want to piss her off? If she not happy I XXXX then I will act as if I dont know everything......and dont XXXX lor..............

Simple as that. I will just avoid....making people unhappy, sometimes at my own expanse. Most of the time, it's not as if I dont know what's happening. I merely act as if I dont know, just so people are happy. I also dont need people to know or appreciate.......I believe sometimes...caring for a person.....you dont really need to let him/her know all the time. 他/她 开心就好了。

Although maybe sometimes I still do(make people unhappy)....they're really unintentional. 

But back to the topic......why I feel it's TIRING to keep conversations or very close friendships with such friends is because I'm SUCH a frank person; I say things on my mind and sometimes I say it out faster than I can correct it.

And I dont say things which I dont mean it. Most of the times I gave compliments, even to strangers(scares them almost all the time) when I'm in a super good mood or has an inquisitive question. For example, "Hey(stranger), your perm very nice! Where you perm it huh?" Maybe because I'm in sales so I'm not afraid of approaching strangers.

And of course I'm NOT a klutz to say negative stuff bluntly....like, "Hey you gain alot of weight leh".......UNLESS that person say it HIMSELF/HERSELF FIRST. For example, "Wah lau......I gained so much weight lately lor........". Then the frank me will......"Haha ya...you do look like you gained abit huh.....aiya then cut down on supper la". Things like that~ I definitely wont say "No lah you didnt gain weight at all." UNLESS he/she really look like he/she didnt gain any weight.

Anyway,

我始终相信缘分。。缘浅了,淡了。。也就尽了。
凡事也无须太强求,因为我相信老天的安排。。当他安排一个人离开你,其实就已
经安排另一个人进入你的生命。=) 凡事皆注定。Everything happens for a reason. =)


All in all, I'm very glad dearie and me are on the same wavelength....although he said and I admit, I'm slightly more petty than him la. But I girl mah...naturally will be slightly more petty. Actually hor, I'm much more broad-minded than TONS of guys already...just that my man is just...amazingly good-tempered and broadminded with a good sense of humor; he hardly gets angry about anything. Zzzz [=.=]''''''''''''''''

Last night........we were at home and I was just standing close infront of him without tiptoeing and looking up at him in (fake)awe....with "innocent" eyes and smiling...... And he, for like the 1st time in a century, said to me, "Ahhh.........my sweet sweet wife...." then he smiled.

I was so shocked, "Wah.......you seldom call me like that one leh"
Dearie: Got lah. =)
Me: NoooOoo, you usually say 你这个贱人(slut)!!~ bla bla bla
Dearie: Wahahahahaha!!
Me: ZzzZzzz

Sometimes when he's in a siao-ding-dong mood, then he will jokkingly call me "贱人(slut)".
The funny thing is, I will still answer him, "What lah"
I'm also very "steady" right. =P 

[=.=]''''''' My friends were appalled that he called me such, aiya but I know he's jokking mah and he only said it at home. Sometimes I call him the same too. Wahahahaha.

We're so weird right~ 

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Despicable Me Plushie!



New companion in the car. Cute righttttt~~~~ Not overly big.

Dearie likes minions so I bought this for him. So funny...usually is the hubby or boyfriend buys for wife/gf......I buy for my hubby. (=.=)''''''''

Only S$9.90 from a newspaper kiosk near an MRT.


Saturday, July 6, 2013

你喜欢哪一种爱? 什么是真爱呢?


以前,自以为很懂得爱。
爱得精,爱得轻,放得快,撇得恨。
虽说有得也有失,有甜也有苦。
但爱得干脆,不拖泥带水。坚持不做第3者,也不一脚踩几船。
潇洒来,潇洒去。不失自我,不失自尊,不留一点伤痕。

以为大家为你争风吃醋就是爱。
以为 搞搞暧昧,小鹿乱撞就是爱。
以为收到许多礼物就是爱。
以为享受被人呵护,被人疼的快乐感觉就是爱。
以为人人想得到的却让我得到了,就是爱。


那么多种爱。到底那一种才是真爱呢?

其实,真爱真的好好好好好简单。
基本上,真的什么都不用刻意的去做。
他不用刻意追你,你也不用刻意电他。
就好像觉得,世界上,什么都可以失去,就是不能没有他。
就是,他没买什么贵重的东西给你,你也无所谓。
就是,只要他陪着你,去哪里都没关系。
就是,就算他什么都不做,只躺在你身旁睡觉,你也会望着他,微笑,觉得甜蜜,幸福。

以前, 一位朋友告诉我,真爱是“细水长流”的。
我说,“huh。。。。。有那么老土吗? 真爱不该是轰轰烈烈,刻骨铭心,歇斯底里,之类的吗? 就算不崇尚“天长地久”,至少也应该“曾经拥有”,之类的吧。。。”

但现在,我完全懂了。我了解那看似简单但又其实不是那么简单的四字成语,“细水长流”。那好像很老土但是又让你觉得很踏实,很美满,很幸福的一种体会。
一段感情,要做到轰轰烈烈或刻骨铭心或歇斯底里,真的一点都不难。我经验还不少。但这些词汇根本是夸大和用来修饰不完美的爱情关系。好像把情景弄得比较浪漫一点,实际上,可一点都不值得欢呼啊。

你有听说过,“我和我老婆有一段刻骨铭心的爱情。”吗?
还是你比较常听到,“我曾经有过一段刻骨铭心的爱情”

所以说,小说啦,电影啦,都是夸大其词的,这样才有人看嘛。
有多少情人会经历“轰轰烈烈” 再到 “刻骨铭心” 又到 “破镜重圆”,然后再 “细水长流”
有。电影 lo。
我有很多朋友非常乐观得总是觉得她们“轰轰烈烈,刻骨铭心” 的爱情道路可以有那么奇迹式,像电影般的一种曲折,一种转折。
坦白说,我今年31了,还真没见过。通常“轰轰烈烈,刻骨铭心,痛痛快快”过后,就是“再见亦是朋友”。可能有吧,但可能超少。

以前,太在乎表面的一些事了。追求者有没有帮你开车门,有没有送你花,会不会送你回,会不会说甜言蜜语哄你开心。
是那位朋友教我,男人,要用心看,而不是全看表面的。
以前我不懂。现在我懂了。因为表面的东西是很容易伪装出来的,也是最容易变质的东西。

就好像,可能刚拍拖时,他会帮你开车门,开车门何等简单,但过了一年后,他就不开了。虽说,心,也是可以伪装的,但,如果他不是真心的,会比较难去伪装。总的来说,就算一个很会伪装心的男人,也很难伪装很长的时间。你可能会发现,有些男人,就像男孩一样,只是想拥有一个奖品,一个玩具。尤其如果你有很多人追时,这种男人的好胜心更是 一发不可收拾。但追到以后,又是另一回事了。

我也不是说很多男生不是真心啦,只是觉得。。。也许你或她都可能误会了所产生的是哪一种爱。

是博爱? 他爱你。对。但只爱你一个吗? 还是爱很多个?

是稚爱? 他爱你。对。爱多久呢? Puppy love? 3个月就没了吗?

是宠爱? 基本上,男孩都会宠女孩。只要你不是跟他太过哥儿们的话。但他只宠你一个吗? 还是谁都宠啊?

怜爱他对你很好? 特好? 在你最需要关怀的时候守在你身边? 是真爱还是感激他啊?


如果不是很有信心,就边拍拖边观察吧。当然,任何一种爱是绝对可以演变成真爱

有时,也真觉得好笑。
我老公好像有一两年没送生日礼物给我。有些朋友会说,“唉呀! 你生日,老公居然不送你礼物,太过份了! 但我也不觉得有什么大不了。因为我也不缺什么嘛。=) 我朋友都觉得我疯了,因为我一点也没生气。老公更好笑,说不知道要买什么给我,差一点要去买钻手饰(因为好像最妥当)。我真的开口求饶,说,“千万不要,你以前买给我的快没地方放了。我又不怎么戴,锁在保险箱怕麻烦,不锁我又担心。真是烦。”

上个月,他出国前几天,买了很多很多我喜欢吃喝的东西,把冰箱塞得满满的。又进钱进我户口,怕我不够用。回来又买了3个名牌包包给我。朋友全都羡慕我得不得了,说我老公超级好(一反之前所说的)。真是好笑。哈哈哈!
他疼我,我当然超开心。唉呀,我当然知道他买得起,也不反对他买,因为外国便宜嘛! 平时,如果他要买给我,我还不让他买呢。我们就是这样简单。=)

不知这样的比喻,你们明不明白。

并不是说,生日不买礼物,就是不爱你。
也不是说,买你贵重的礼物,就是超爱你。

我如果一个人在家时,就会乱吃东西,或索性不吃。
他担心我,所以出国前都买了我最爱吃的食物,最爱喝的饮料放在家里。
对我来说,是最窝心的。这比他从国外买包包回来给我,让我更为感动。=)

每个人对真爱的定义不同。没对没错。就看你喜欢哪一种爱吧。
但最重要的是要珍惜自己,和珍惜值得珍惜的人。



祝大家幸福!!