Friday, August 31, 2012
Heard Cel sang this song and fell in love with it. Nice lyrics. Pretty mind-boggling.
Would you prefer to FORGET someone totally who has hurt you and altogether with the heart-wrenching memories?
Or would you prefer to REMEMBER him/her, together with all the pain which he/she had inflicted on you(as in the lyrics)?
I'll choose both.
I wont try to forget anyone who has crossed my path, no matter how ill-fated things might be.
I'll remember the sweet memories but will forget the bad ones. Very selective. =)
I believed more than once, I had yelled, "I wish I have never known you!" or "I wish we had never cross our paths in life" to one or another. Lol. But actually I'm not one who can hate a person for long. In fact, it's hard for me to stay angry with anyone for long. Unless that person realllllyyyy gets on my nerves. =P Even if somehow I need to say goodbye to some people, I wont regret knowing them because they gave me some sweet memories as well. They must have, because no one can be hurt by someone who has never done anything sweet to them.
Will you be hurt emotionally by a stranger who hurls vulgarities at you?
You wont. You will be furious but you wont feel hurt.
Surely, someone must have treated you in sweet ways but somehow stopped doing it etc to make you feel hurt.
So just remember the sweet stuffs and forget the bad stuff. =) I dont know but it comes pretty naturally easy for me. Of course, with time lah. Maybe the bad stuff wont disappear in your brain since we're not senile, but they'll just slowly fade into that remote corner in your brain.
Be thankful that you're survived them and they made you stronger. Nobody is indispensable and life is too short to be wilted away for people who are simply just not meant to be.
Sometimes these sweet memories can bring a smile to your face, when triggered by say...a song...a place or a sentence. They're like an occasional dose of endorphin. =D
Lastly, dont EVER try to forget anyone. It's not really possible. Unless you get into a coma.
On the contrary, the MORE you try to forget someone, the CLEARER he or she stays into your mind.
So the conclusion is?
Dont try to forget la. Just let him/her fade away~ Meet more new people, eventually there will be this significant someone who can erase the painful and deep footprints left behind on your heart previously. You dont really need to do anything at all actually. Just remember not to dwell in the hurt which he/she had caused you. Do not re-play painful scenes again and again in your mind. Everytime they comes into your head, immediately replace them with sweet and romantic scenes. Treat it as an occasional indulge of fantasy, but please remember it's only a fantasy and he/she wont be coming back. Do not fantasize the impossible. If you really need to fantasize, fantasize you'll meet a rich, hunk tomorrow in the cafes/clubs etc. =P
The right kind and right amount of fantasies, at the right time, can be a life booster. =)
What......you're never meet another guy/girl like him/her??
Dont be silly. The world is so big. =) Tell yourself you deserve BETTER!
Great weekend everyone and I wish all the broken-hearted mend their hearts the soonest. 要开心哦!! Cheers!!